当我真正开始爱自己
WHEN I STARTED LOVING MYSELF
查理·卓别林（Charles Chaplin）
当我真正开始爱自己，
我才认识到，所有的痛苦和情感的折磨，
都只是提醒我：
活着，不要违背自己的本心。
今天我明白了，这叫做
『真实』。
As I began to love myself,
I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is "AUTHENTICITY".
当我真正开始爱自己，
我才懂得，把自己的愿望强加于人，
是多么的无礼，
就算我知道，时机并不成熟，
那人也还没有做好准备，
就算那个人就是我自己，
今天我明白了，这叫做
『尊重』。
As I began to love myself,
I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person,even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it,and even though this person was me.
Today I call it "RESPECT".
当我开始爱自己，
我不再渴求不同的人生，
我知道任何发生在我身边的事情，
都是对我成长的邀请。
如今，我称之为
『成熟』。
As I began to love myself,
I stopped craving for a different life,and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it "MATURITY".
当我开始真正爱自己，
我才明白，我其实一直都在正确的时间，
正确的地方，发生的一切都恰如其分。
由此我得以平静。
今天我明白了，这叫做
『自信』。
As I began to love myself,
I understood that at any circumstance,I am in the right place at the right time,and everything happens at the exactly right moment,so I could be calm.
Today I call it "SELF-CONFIDENCE".
当我开始真正爱自己，
我不再牺牲自己的自由时间，
不再去勾画什么宏伟的明天。
今天我只做有趣和快乐的事，
做自己热爱，让心欢喜的事，
用我的方式，以我的韵律。
今天我明白了，这叫做
『单纯』。
As I began to love myself,
I quit steeling my own time,and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness,things I love to do and that make my heart cheer,and I do them in my own way,and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it "HONESTY".
当我开始真正爱自己，
我开始远离一切不健康的东西。
不论是饮食和人物，还是事情和环境，
我远离一切让我远离本真的东西。
从前我把这叫做“追求健康的自私自利”，
但今天我明白了，这是
『自爱』。
As I began to love myself,
我爱我自己
I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health –food, people, things, situations,and everything that drew me down and away from myself.At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is "LOVE OF ONESELF".
当我开始真正爱自己，
我不再总想着要永远正确，不犯错误。
我今天明白了，这叫做
『谦逊』。
As I began to love myself,
I quit trying to always be right,and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is "MODESTY".
我当开始真正爱自己，
我不再继续沉溺于过去，
也不再为明天而忧虑，
现在我只活在一切正在发生的当下，
今天，我活在此时此地，
如此日复一日。这就叫
『完美』。
As I began to love myself,
I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment,where EVERYTHING is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day,and I call it "PERFECTION".
当我开始真正爱自己，
我明白，我的思虑让我变得贫乏和病态，
但当我唤起了心灵的力量，
理智就变成了一个重要的伙伴，
这种组合我称之为，
『心的智慧』。
As I began to love myself,
I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick.
But as I connected it to my heart,my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
我们无须再害怕自己和他人的分歧，矛盾和问题，